The skewed social media

I’ve never been much of a social media junkie. I’ve always felt somewhat overwhelmed and exposed when online, mostly due to the sheer volume of information. Mix that with a tendency to shy away from the light and airy, and my social media experience has been rather stop-and-go.

From a young age, we’ve been taught to value consistency because a consistent person is viewed as reliable, and a reliable person is valuable. Social media exacerbates this programming through a feedback system comprised of likes, comments, followers and subscriptions. We crave the quick validation provided through online applications and we’re encouraged to create surface bonds with as many people as possible.

For the immediate highs that social media provides, life doesn’t begin and end online, and we know this. It’s a tool — a facilitation for the mask we wear for social acceptance. It isn’t true connection.

True connection begins at the point when you can look someone directly in the eye and experience the nuances that make up their expansive character. Through face-to-face interactions, we cultivate genuine connections with each other. We are not our social media profiles — we are vastly greater than what could ever be captured within an online application and yet we treat each other as though the opposite were true. Are we okay with this shift in collective functioning? Maybe we’ve confused ‘connecting’ with ‘collecting’. Perhaps we’ve bought into the myth that marketing the best, or even the craziest possible online versions of ourselves — as long as we’re consistent — is the only way to be valued in today’s society.

Sure, many of our most innovative ideas and marketing opportunities are owed to the onset of social media. Our ability to function effectively in a world increasingly governed by these online tools is a matter of balance between the minutes/hours spent among the various names and snapshots in time, and the constant flow of awareness while connecting with a person face-to-face.

Maybe a tool is best used as such — neither as a distraction nor as a mirror of self-worth. And the line, she is fine — if that line even exists.

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